Sunday readings reflection: “It is not good for the man to be alone”

Sunday, October 3, 2021

Genesis, 2:18-24
Psalm 128:1-6
Hebrews 2:9-11
Mark 10:2-16

If taken literally, God seems to be saying that a man needs a companion, specifically (perhaps) a wife. And, as a man who has a wife, in fact has had a wife for 35 years, I can say that this advice has worked out extraordinarily well for me–truly a complete blessing. However, I want to take God’s Word outside this box of marital/romantic companionship and talk about the need for people in our lives in general.

Importantly, to begin, it seems God is not alone as He gets busy creating order from chaos. When God speaks in the first chapters of Genesis, He often uses plural pronouns, we and us. And certainly it can be asserted that the angels are present, singing praises, playing harps, lutes, and lyres, and performing other tasks as assigned. But there seems something more, someone assisting with Creation itself. And only beings that would be co-equal to God, not subject to Him, could fully participate in the act of Creation. And yes, that infers the presence of the Word (as we come to know as Jesus, His Son) and the Holy Spirit, God in the co-equal three persons of the Holy Trinity. This is important in a few ways, not the least of which is that God knows how important it is to have co-equals around. And also, God has both an intuitive and experiential knowledge of love.

When God created man and paraded all the beasts of the earth before him, God knew that they were not man’s co-equals. So God created another creature, bone from man’s bone, flesh from man’s flesh–a co-equal in every way so that man could learn and experience love. All humans, then, born of humans and breathed to life by God Himself, share the genesis of co-equal creation, born of love, to love. Co-equals are afforded the same promises of God through Christ. Co-equals are due the same dignity of being children of the One True God. And co-equals are called to live in loving relationship with one another.

It seems even a limitless God learns love experientially. We must expect, then, to do the same. Love is hard, but the Second Greatest Commandment says we must love each other. In fact, God gave us each other in the very act of Creation. “It is not good for the man to be alone” is not just a passing thought, but a force of Creation and an act of love. Love one another.

My Lord God, You did not create me to be alone, living in a vacuum in a world You created. You put people of all kinds in my path and You call me to love all of them. I pray that You also give me the grace to do so. Amen

8 thoughts on “Sunday readings reflection: “It is not good for the man to be alone”

  1. What a beautifully written and thoughtful reflection, Tim. I will absolutely steal it for a future homily someday. 😀 Amazing. These words have sunk deep into my heart. Thank you so much for this.

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  2. This is a hard Sunday for me. Every three years on the lectionary calendar I am reminded that I am alone. Alone for many years before I was married, alone in my marriage, and now as a result of the end of that marriage even more alone. It is hard to think that this state of my being is so unsatisfactory to God. Thank you for this reflection. It encourages me to not give up and to give thanks for the people and beings (my dog for one) that are in my life.

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    1. You are not alone Erika and your state in life is not unsatisfactory to God. Those who walk in the light of Christ are forever in fellowship with one another (1 John 1:7). May the light of Christ surround you, keep you from all darkness, and give you lasting peace.


    2. I would second what Tim said, Erika, if I may. You are not unsatisfactory to God. Perhaps He has caused you to feel this loneliness so that you will learn to cling to Him more. He is the Friend who sticks closer than a brother. He has promised that He will never leave or forsake you (Ps. 37:25). A friend once told me, “Cling to Christ with all of your being.” I was in a very low place at the time. In time I learned to do just that, and my Lord became very dear to me. Then, when I learned that He is all I need, He also blessed me with meaningful friendships and a wonderful, loving relationship with my husband. I’ll be praying for you, Erika, though I don’t know you. God does, and that’s all that matters.

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      1. Thank you, Angela. Your insight is spot on. IN this time of discernment I have grown in my relationship with God – ever so deeply. As a Lay Pastoral Associate serving in a church I love I struggle – struggle with a community that focuses on, celebrates, and upholds couples and families but allows those of us walking solo in life to continue on that path alone. Of course, this wouldn’t be the first time the church got in the way of God. I so appreciate your lovingkindness and am grateful for your prayers.

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